Navigating Grief

Navigating grief is never easy. And there’s no “right way” to do it.  But a good way to start walking down the recovery path is to write about your faithful friend.  It doesn’t have to be neat and pretty, just take out a sheet of paper and start jotting down random thoughts of what your friend was and is to you.  Things he did, where he loved to sleep, things that made you laugh.  After a bit, the tears will turn to laughter, and then the healing can begin.

But you’ll be 10 minutes from feeling normal, for a long time. It’s been 2 months since our beloved Peeve crossed over to the Bridge, and just yesterday, I turned around and looked to make sure he wasn’t trying to run out the back door.  His food bowl still sits on the corner of my desk, where he always ate.  It is okay to keep physical reminders of your baby around.  You will look at them and smile, remembering a special time.

This was your baby, and you’ve suffered a death…just like any other death in  your family.  And it just takes time for that pain in your gut to subside.  But it will, I promise.  Just keep talking, and writing, about your sweet baby, and time will heal…I promise.

Until then, send bubble kisses to heaven, plant a memorial garden, and know that the love you gave, and the love that you received, will never die.

About the Author

Kate Moore

Kate Moore and Terry Branson are licensed funeral directors who owned and operated human funeral homes in the Dallas-Fort Worth area for over a decade. They are pet parents and pet lovers who believe that our companion animals deserve the same dignity and respect in death as do their human caregivers.Kate and Terry were among the first in the nation to receive their Certified Pet Loss Professional designation from the Pet Loss Professionals Alliance. " They are with us for a little while, but leave their paw prints on our hearts forever" They are both active members of 4PAWS, an animal adoption organization in Benbrook, Texas; members of the Academy of Professional Funeral Service Practice; the International Association for Animal Hospice and Palliative Care; the Tarrant County Veterinary Medical Association and the Pet Loss Professional´s Alliance. Terry received his Bachelors Degree from Chapman University in Psychology and continued his Masters work in a clinical setting.

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  1. Mackenzie says

    I lost the dog I grew up with recently, he passed when I was out of town so I never got to say goodbye. I have a red flower in my room, its never bloomed. But I started talking to it to thinking this would help me stop feeling guilty, and it bloomed and now I’ve taken on another dog, he lost his home and he chose me. I couldn’t turn this little pup away. I thank my dog Sniffles, or Old Man for showing me the love of a dog and bringing Mojo to me. I will always miss him, but at least I won’t forget my boy

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    • Bob Jenkins says

      Mackenzie, that is such a lovely story! Thank you for sharing and it is our hope that your grief will ease with time.

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